Who are you? And do others see the real you, or you all smoke and mirrors? And if you had a friend with the insight and honesty to shoot straight, would you want to know the truth?
There are four perspectives, four windows on your soul, that will have a profound influence on your journey through life. Known as the Johari Window, named after its two creators, Joseph Luft and Harrington Ingham, what you have here are four perspectives that can give you a hint as to how you relate to others. There are four – and in this scenario, only four – and where you fall in these four quadrants may well determine your destiny, not only in this life but in the life to come.
In the first window, we have your public self, things you know about you and others know about you. This can be good or bad, depending, but at least you are honest and aboveboard. What you see is what you get.
In the second window, we have your private self, things you know about you but that others don’t know about you. What you see here is not what you get. The real you is hidden behind a carefully crafted façade, with a reputation you may not deserve, but one that has been cultivated to aid you in your progress through life.
In the third window, you have your blind self, things others know about you but that you don’t know about you. This is where you need honest friends you can trust. Your self-discovery is necessary if you are to mature and become the person God created you to be. What we see is … well, you’d never guess.
And, finally, a fourth window where you have your unknown self, where you have things you don’t know about you and that others don’t know about you either. And here is where you need God, for He is the one who will change the course of your life and help you become the best that you can be. In other words, what you see, God only knows!
And that is the point of this essay. We all need a God Who knows all about us and cares enough to work with us that we might become everything we were meant to be. None of us is operating up to our potential. Although created in the image of God, life has marred that image; we need divine help.
I operate with the conviction that God is real, and that He loves us even if we don’t love Him. We can ignore Him, we can choose a self-centered life that has no place for Him, but we do so only to our peril. God cares about us and would like to do a work in your life and mine, remolding us into a person that is real and genuine. And then He would like to bless us with the gift of eternal life and make eternally permanent the changes that will come to us in the here and now.
Most of us spend our time living in the public arena hoping to be accepted by what others see and believe us to be. What they don’t know won’t hurt them … we hope! But God has a unique vision for you and me. He would like to transform us so that we can be open and honest, where what you see is who we are!